Today is our fourth wedding anniversary. What a great four years we've had! From exotic vacations to walks around the neighborhood, I can't imagine a single day without him.
When we were getting married, we easily agreed on what "our song" would be. My mother-in-law put the kibosh on our choice - her friend was teaching us how to dance, and we could not dance to that song! Okay, fine. We grumbled, picked another song, learned a fancy dance (picture Fraulein Maria at the party in Sound of Music), failed to practice it again before the wedding, and swayed like middle schoolers instead. We asked the DJ to play our song later, and when it came on, everyone recognized that this must be special. (And not in the way that my friend's Baby Got Back dance was special.) They all cleared the floor, and we had a blast dancing to our real song...
In this little online infertile world, I have seen evidence of some fantastic marriages. Significantly better than most of my real-world friends' marriages. While we all have our squabbles, most of us infertiles seem to have been to hell and back with unshakeable husbands holding our hands. I'm proud of all of us for holding it together. We rock!
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Dear Valentine
Dear mrohkay,
I know we don't usually do much to celebrate Valentine's Day and we're not "romantic" in the flowers and candle-lit dinner sense. When we had to schedule an adoption-related appointment for tonight and the person on the phone pointed out that it was Valentine's Day, I laughed and said "uhhh, that's not a problem." But I wanted to do something for you today to show my appreciation.
Tomorrow is one year since our first loss. I've relied on you so much since that day. You've hugged me countless times. Let me talk about it ad nauseam. Comforted me when I cried. And cried. And cried. Encouraged me to find a hobby, and then humored me when the hobby turned out to be tweeting/blogging about fertility. Agreed to give pregnancy a third try even when you might have preferred to move on. Listened to me blabber on about people's lives in the blogging world. Inspired me to exercise more. Made me laugh when I didn't think it was possible. I know the year was incredibly tough on you, too. I wish I'd been able to be your rock in the way that you were mine.
Many people say that the one thing they are grateful for in their infertility struggles is that they know now that they can weather anything as a couple. I'm not sure I have the ability to step back and feel grateful for our fertility struggles at this point, but I'm extremely grateful for you. We're a great team and will continue to be - whether we're a family of two or a family of a dozen.
Love,
your wife
I know we don't usually do much to celebrate Valentine's Day and we're not "romantic" in the flowers and candle-lit dinner sense. When we had to schedule an adoption-related appointment for tonight and the person on the phone pointed out that it was Valentine's Day, I laughed and said "uhhh, that's not a problem." But I wanted to do something for you today to show my appreciation.
Tomorrow is one year since our first loss. I've relied on you so much since that day. You've hugged me countless times. Let me talk about it ad nauseam. Comforted me when I cried. And cried. And cried. Encouraged me to find a hobby, and then humored me when the hobby turned out to be tweeting/blogging about fertility. Agreed to give pregnancy a third try even when you might have preferred to move on. Listened to me blabber on about people's lives in the blogging world. Inspired me to exercise more. Made me laugh when I didn't think it was possible. I know the year was incredibly tough on you, too. I wish I'd been able to be your rock in the way that you were mine.
Many people say that the one thing they are grateful for in their infertility struggles is that they know now that they can weather anything as a couple. I'm not sure I have the ability to step back and feel grateful for our fertility struggles at this point, but I'm extremely grateful for you. We're a great team and will continue to be - whether we're a family of two or a family of a dozen.
Love,
your wife
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