Dear mrohkay,
I know we don't usually do much to celebrate Valentine's Day and we're not "romantic" in the flowers and candle-lit dinner sense. When we had to schedule an adoption-related appointment for tonight and the person on the phone pointed out that it was Valentine's Day, I laughed and said "uhhh, that's not a problem." But I wanted to do something for you today to show my appreciation.
Tomorrow is one year since our first loss. I've relied on you so much since that day. You've hugged me countless times. Let me talk about it ad nauseam. Comforted me when I cried. And cried. And cried. Encouraged me to find a hobby, and then humored me when the hobby turned out to be tweeting/blogging about fertility. Agreed to give pregnancy a third try even when you might have preferred to move on. Listened to me blabber on about people's lives in the blogging world. Inspired me to exercise more. Made me laugh when I didn't think it was possible. I know the year was incredibly tough on you, too. I wish I'd been able to be your rock in the way that you were mine.
Many people say that the one thing they are grateful for in their infertility struggles is that they know now that they can weather anything as a couple. I'm not sure I have the ability to step back and feel grateful for our fertility struggles at this point, but I'm extremely grateful for you. We're a great team and will continue to be - whether we're a family of two or a family of a dozen.
Love,
your wife
